WIFE WANTS MORE ACTION HELP?

Hard one. My first impression is she doesn't like the state she was living in with you and wants you to come live where she wants to. (This might be especially true if she really likes and misses her sister.) Wish you had told me where the boys are, with you or her. Why not try to meet her halfway, meaning that if she wants you there, she has to come up with the money to move you. You're right that moving is expensive. And you're right not to go to that expense until you're sure she really wants you -- you don't want to be out of money, away from the state you were living in, and have her leave you. (Maybe a little work on that drinking might be in order too, especially if it played a part in her leaving.) I don't like a couple of aspets of this -- "leaving to save the marriage" sounds fishy, and the sexy photos might be going to others besides you (who's taking them?) Bottom line, make her tell you what she really wants and then get her to help you find the money somewhere if you're convinced she really wants to stay married. I think she's got a couple of things to prove. E-mail me and let me know what happened and what you're going to do. Good luck.